The Healing Journey

October 18, 2023

Jeannie Ewing’s book, “From Grief to Grace: The Journey from Tragedy to Triumph,” mentions the importance of laughter after you’ve lost someone you love and think you’ll never be able to laugh again. But she believes laughter can help you deal with your grief.

“Laughter might be the last thing on your mind when you’ve lost a loved one, a job, a home, or are experiencing financial difficulty,” she says. “Even if you’re a good-natured person inherently, it’s hard to see beyond the struggle when you’re in the midst of it.”

As difficult as it may be to confront that harsh reality, she nevertheless says, “Engaging in a hearty belly laugh now and then is surprisingly very healing, both physiologically and emotionally. Laughter accesses the limbic system, the part of our brains that houses emotional processing and responses. When you laugh so hard you cry, you’re actually reaping double benefits. Research shows evidence that tears shed during times of extreme stress have a different chemical makeup than those shed when you’re temporarily sad.”

Of course, it’s difficult to force laughter, if not almost impossible. However, you shouldn’t run from those occasions that will lead to laughter, such as a comedy on TV. There are days when you can’t conceive of watching a comedy show, but then there are days when it will provide a welcome respite to your pain.

Or try hanging out with a person who is so upbeat and comical it’s downright annoying. Or take the time to read some humorous literature or a joke book. These activities may not be at the top of your Things to Do list, but give them a chance.

At first, laughter is hard, but later it becomes easier.

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Don’t force yourself to laugh, but be open to the possibility and look for opportunities.