March 26, 2023
– E. Joseph Cossman
Sometimes sleep doesn’t come when we need it most, as a temporary respite from the chronic pain that accompanies grief. You think, “If only I could sleep for a while and get some rest.”
Sleep, like nutrition, is an absolute necessity in bereavement. It gives you a chance to rest and recharge emotionally and physically. It lets your mind sort through things, even though when you wake up your grief will still be there, where you left it. However, you will be rested and ready to face another day … and every day you face brings you a step closer to healing.
If you begin to suffer from fatigue, or worse, sleep deprivation and insomnia, your body will quickly feel the effects. This will delay the healing process. Your problems and your pain will be magnified.
Sometimes you may lie awake at night, staring at the ceiling, while a parade of negative thoughts march across your consciousness, creating anxiety, fear and panic. Your situation will seem immeasurably worse at night. You may ponder the past and be assaulted by regrets, and your mind will project more uncertainty about the future.
Carolyn Killian, Director of Bereavement, says, “Having trouble sleeping is part of the deal.” If you’re not getting enough sleep, consider using meditation, prayer, a sleep app or white noise. If necessary, consult your physician or therapist for help. Turning to alcohol or illicit drugs is not the solution.
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Find a way to get a good night’s sleep because it is necessary for the healing process.